All funeral directors are created equal, right?
Well, not exactly.
If you’re facing down the idea of planning for a funeral or even are just considering one that may be coming soon, you need to be sure that you’re taking on the right funeral director for your specific service needs.
The following common myths associated with hiring funeral directors will not only dispel some typical misconceptions, but should help you to find just the right funeral director for a very important event in the lives of those who love you.
Myth 1: Every Director Is the Same
Every single person is not the same, and likewise every funeral is not the same (and every funeral home, for that matter).
Different funeral directors have different specialties, and some may not even offer the specific services that you’re looking for. For instance, some directors may not condone cremation or may try to avoid that option with those who come to them, so if you have a clear idea of the services you or your loved one are looking for, be sure to see what the director seems to think about them—or if he or she offers them.
Myth 2: Funeral Directors Are Morbid
Just because they work with death all day, every day, doesn’t mean that funeral directors are always morbid.
Funeral directors are well aware of their industry, and understand that those who come to them are not as familiar, most likely, with the notions of grieving and departure. It’s part of their job to present the service as something positive and to make you comfortable in a time of grief, so you can be sure that true professionals are as bright and cheery as is necessary.
In fact, if you look hard enough, you might even find a funny one. Funeral directors are people too, and need an outlet for all the bleak aspects of their industry.
Myth 3: Funeral Directors Are Preachers
Religion is inextricably linked with death much of the time, and people can often assume that funeral directors will be employing not only their expertise in death, but a minor in divinity.
Though Christian beliefs and aesthetics are common in funeral homes, many directors will not push this on their clients. If you’re averse to religious slants, then rest assured that most directors will not take a pulpit position when you come to them.
Selecting a fine funeral director to help plan a funeral in Adelaide is vital for ensuring the best possible funeral experience for the friends and families of the deceased. See how Fulham Funerals can ensure that those in attendance and the deceased are well taken care of.
Prepaid funeral plans are the solution of choice for many people who see a funeral coming for themselves or for a loved one in the foreseeable future, who want to ensure that they don’t miss out on a beautiful service when that time comes just because of financial uncertainty.
No matter what your current financial situation is, it’s impossible to know for sure if you’ll be able to afford the significant costs of funding a funeral when it has to be done, and likewise it’s impossible to know for sure when that time ate will even be.
Still, there is a lot of uncertainty surrounding prepaid funerals and funeral plan management. Recently there has even been a lot of publicity to the negatives of prepaid funeral planning, illuminating immoral treatment of those funds, corruption from untrustworthy funeral homes and unknown breaks with the fine print in contracts.
If you would like to be sure that your funeral is paid for when it has to be, follow these tips to make sure things go smoothly.
Read the Fine Print
Most often, the problems with prepaid funeral plans comes not from the funeral director, but from the party funding the plan. Most directors will be very forward and helpful with the conditions outlined in the contract, so be sure to take notes, ask questions and read the contract yourself.
The Problem with Moving
A very common problem with prepaid funeral plans leading to lost money is moving away. Typically this will incur a fee for transfer, so be sure that if the contract will call for charges for transfer or refunding the payments that you firmly plan to hold the funeral where you prepay for it.
This may take some foresight on your part, but if you and your loved one(s) enjoy moving about the country or if you would like to keep that option available, you may want to start your own savings fund for the funeral or pursue life insurance instead.
Pick a Reputable Funeral Home
This may be the most important part of finding the most prudent, guaranteed prepaid funeral plan.
Be sure to do your research and find a funeral home and funeral director that are trustworthy. Look up reviews and peruse their website, then even call and talk to them to be sure you feel good about their service. If you can, try to find others who have prepaid or who have survived someone who had a prepaid service set up there.
For the most trustworthy funeral directors in Adelaide and the prepaid plans that will secure a funeral down the road, see the arrangements available from Fulham Funerals today to lock in a low cost for a future service for you or a loved one.
It’s no secret that paying for a funeral is a huge issue of concern for many of us. Costs for various aspects of funeral planning and implementation are rising regularly, and between caskets, services, memorabilia and more, the costs for many can seem to be out of reach.
This is why, ironically, many people find it prudent to pay for a funeral in advance. Good funeral planning is extremely important today, and one part of good funeral planning is solid financial planning. Paying in advance with a great prepaid funeral plan can not only help alleviate some financial burdens, it can relieve a lot of stress on those facing the notion of a funeral.
Paying Funeral Costs Soon to Save Money
So how does paying soon save? As aforementioned, many of the aspects of funeral services rise regularly. Prepaid funeral plans allow you to lock in a current price for funeral expenses, meaning that you get to keep the price of a funeral today. Consider that even if you see a funeral happening in the near future, costs will certainly not be getting cheaper in the foreseeable future.
Keep in mind, and don’t be alarmed, that there is often a modest fee involved in prepaying for a funeral service. With the money that you can save, however, over time you will likely find that the difference in the amount you prepaid and the level of costs down the road will more than make up for that fee.
How It Works
This may sound like essentially free money, or a loss on the part of the funeral home. The way it works, actually, is a bit more complicated than just paying a single cost upfront and having the funeral home hold on to that for years. This money collects interest over time, allowing the funeral home to apply the gross amount to the increase in their personal costs.
Peace of Mind
Aside from these financial benefits, prepaying for a funeral can bring great peace of mind.
Our financial situations can be big unknowns; we don’t always know what our money will look like in the future. If a proper funeral is an extremely important thing to you, then paying for it while you know you can afford it will allow you the comfort of knowing that the funeral is virtually guaranteed, even if something big and unexpected comes up and you or your family can’t afford it when the time comes. Even in the odd event that the funeral home changes ownership, you still retain that payment.
For the Adelaide prepaid funeral plans that will ensure your ideal funeral service in Adelaide, see the plans Fulham Funerals has to offer.
Call them morticians, undertakers, funerologists or whatever you’re comfortable with, but the general title of this esteemed professional today is funeral director. This will be the person who will guide you along funeral planning and arrangements and who will serve you in whatever needs you end up needing fulfilled, and picking the right one for a territory most of us know very little about is essential.
If you’re looking into funeral planning and just don’t know where to start, these tips and considerations will help you find the best possible funeral planning director for your specific needs.
When searching through your options for the best funeral director, look at his or her business’s reputation online. See if there are any reviews, first, and even ask around to see if anyone knows of a reliable one.
Remember that funerals are vital pieces of the grieving process that will stand out in people’s memories for a long time and may represent the last image people will have of the deceased. This isn’t the type of industry worth taking risks on for lower costs or for lack of knowledge of your options. Go with someone trusted and definite.
That being said, price is also a consideration to make in today’s economy. Funerals can be expensive, so take a look at the business’s offerings to be sure they’re competitive for what you’re looking for, and remember to assess this with their reputation to be sure you’re going to get what you pay for.
If you have a clear idea in mind of what you would like your proposed funeral to be like, you should look around at the areas off specialty of the funeral directors around you.
If religion is a big part of the service you’re looking for, try to find someone who caters to religious services and sensibilities. If you’re vehemently agnostic or atheist, then likewise you may want to avoid any servicers who seem to push the religious aspect of their service, as this may cause some discomfort for both of you. The last thing you want is a poor experience clouding an emotional, grief-riddled time in your life.
Remember that funerals should be times of celebration to some extent, so be sure it’s someone who can help you and those who loved the deceased to have a cathartic, pleasant experience.
Also consider what you want with the remains. If you’re positive about cremation, be sure to find someone who devotes a lot of attention to it as an option. Some directors will try to push their business to one direction or another.
Still, no matter what type of funeral planning you’re looking for, Adelaide funerals are the specialty of Fulham Funerals. They have the local experience and passion to help make any Adelaide funeral experience positive and valuable.
Cremating bodies has been a decent, practical, and even spiritual means of finalizing a death and coping with the death for centuries, though since its somewhat recent resurgence there has been hearty opposition to it by more conservative, sensitive, and spiritual people.
No matter what your stance is on cremation services– and the idea here isn’t to sway that stance one way or another – when you’re facing down funeral planning, you can be sure that cremation is a viable option that may deserve some consideration. If you are averse to it in any way, or are even looking into it, there are likely some misconceptions you hold if you haven’t had experience with it or done much research yet.
The following are some of the most common myths associated with the service, and finding the truth may help you in making an informed decision when it’s time to make your (or a loved one’s) funeral plan arrangements.
Cremation Creates Ashes
Generally we picture anything that’s burned and so reduced as resulting in ashes, but in cremation that’s actually not the case.
If you ever see cremated remains, you’ll notice there’s a difference in consistency and color, that they’re significantly lighter and denser than ashes. This is because when a body is super-heated for several hours, what remains at the end is actually bone matter. This bone matter is then physically reduced to a finer substance, generally referred to as pulverized bone.
Urns Are Required
For most of us, picturing cremation is picturing an urn. For those who are facing this option on an economic basis and are reluctant to consider the often four-figure price tag of urns, this is generally not actually a requirement.
The remains are usually presented modestly in a cardboard box or some other temporary vessel. Urns are certainly encouraged, but if that’s not what would best befit those surviving the deceased and the deceased his/herself, the temporary vessel can suit for transportation to a more creative means of finalizing the death (scattering at sea, launching into space, mixing into a garden, etc.).
Cremation Has No Environmental Effects
Even the greenest possible means of caring for the deceased can have environmental repercussions, and cremation isn’t an exception.
Though in many ways it’s better environmentally than burial, the process of cremation still involves large amounts of fuel and can release various elements into the atmosphere. All these things should be considered equally, of course, and remember that there may be no “perfect” solution to body-handling on an eco-basis.
There Is a “Right” Thing to Do with the Remains
Though urn storage and display and sea scattering are common and respectable, there really is no “right” thing to do. It’s really up to what will best serve his/her memory and what will aid the grieving process the most for those who survive him/her, so long as no one and nothing is hurt in the process.
Writing an obituary for even the most celebrated of personalities after their death can be difficult business, particularly for those who have little exposure to the medium.
Throughout the history of the printed word, however, obituaries have been a long-respected tradition, calling on the attention of newspaper readers everywhere for big publications like The New York Times. In the past, it was common for people to read obituaries weekly just to learn about those who died, with great obituaries exhibiting all the best traits of biography in a condensed manner. In many instances, these even provided social insight into deaths that marked big events, or displayed the final words on a beloved celebrity.
If you’re looking at the prospect of writing up an obituary for an Adelaide funeral, or for anyone anywhere at any time, take some notes from some of the best obituaries ever written. Or, if you’d like to keep a truly interesting literary tradition going, just read them over for pure interest.
The obituary for Mr. Venezia is one of pure intrigue, honoring an extraordinary man who wrestled with his own horrible demons for a greater good.
Venezia was one of the first Jews to find himself imprisoned in Auschwitz, and went on to experience more tragedy and travesty than can be imagined. For decades he kept these experiences to himself, but by the 1990s the Italian saw an uprising in extremist doctrines and found that it was time to bring what he saw to the world with the help of a journalist.
His obituary is straight-forward, as his autobiography is, but it needs to be to make room for the dense emotional weight it carries as it describes some of his life.
Nguyen Chi Thien
This obituary describes the life of an incredible man, one of Vietnam’s – and the world’s, for that matter – most talented and powerful poets of his time.
Mr. Thien spent years in Vietnamese prison and labor camps as punishment for trying to revise Communist history in school, and in his consequent imprisonment he found himself chained constantly with no means of writing at all. So he went on to write 700 poems in his head, and then published them when he found freedom.
This one’s a bit brighter, but not for good reasons.
94-year-old Anello’s obituary gained internet fame from Tampa, Florida as her son pointed out that her daughter was a thief and her other son broke her heart. Maybe you shouldn’t take notes from this one.
The infamous traitor to America’s death achieved what might be the shortest, most intentionally stoic obituaries of all time. The claim to summarize this man’s entire life: “… notorious throughout the world.”
The Boston Massacre
In the old(e) days, obituaries were used as their own form of journalism.
The racism-inspired Boston Massacre brought the deaths of several men to light with a beautiful write-up that described their procession as “the Theatre of the inhuman Tragedy.”
The injustice these men suffered was then put onto a national pedestal, allowing the country to see the truth of their countrymen’s martyrdom and hatred.
We often keep definite separation between the formal and the informal, the decent and the faux pas, the social and the personal, but sometimes those can be more dotted lines than thick strikes.
In our modern age, there are few things more formal, serious, and even personal than deaths and funerals, and few things less so than social media. But do we really need to keep these things mutually exclusive? Does the constantly burgeoning prevalence of social media really lack a place in the grieving process?
Surely by this point Facebook and Twitter are no longer the tween-centered mediums for adolescent angst, sharing YouTube videos, and updating the world with our insignificant daily minutiae (“this is a pic of me in the morning”; “i had salad for lunch lol”). Grandparents, business professionals, and funeral directors themselves even boast profiles these days, so there’s certainly been a shift in the use and necessity of social media, if not yet the social perception.
So since there’s been a paradigm shift in social medias, there are a few ways that we can take steps to make them a platform for our grieving if we’re willing to step out into the (possibly) vast waters of our friends lists.
Profiles for the Deceased
This one can be quite tricky, as there is some possibility that it could rub people the wrong way or that it could be seen as a product of poor taste. Really this is best done if the deceased already had a profile to begin with and you can somehow manage the profile.
This can be helpful in several ways. First, the person likely had a reach of influence beyond what most of his/her friends knew about, and may have friends from other places that no one else is friends with. This can be a way to reach those people to let them know what happened.
These profiles can also turn into mediums for grief support. Loved ones can post memories and pictures to the profile, allowing all those who appreciated the person to reminisce and get comfort from knowing others felt the same way about him/her.
Sometimes deaths can come with shrouds of uncertainty, and this can be painful to those surviving the person if they aren’t true. By using social media, we now have a podium to announce the truth of ambiguous deaths, such as clearing up that a car accident wasn’t alcohol-induced or that a potentially horrifying incident was really milder than some think. This can be a great comfort to the families left behind, as well as a means of preserving the reputation of the deceased.
Of course the most obvious benefit is the possibility of support. In the past people who couldn’t afford airfare for a service or who maybe didn’t feel they knew the family of the deceased quite well enough to extend a gesture may have sat back, but with social media it’s easy for anyone from anywhere to send over photos or kind words to those who survived the person who died. People can also send out thanks via their profiles so they don’t have to spend tons of time responding individually during the complex times of stress and grief following the death. And unlike phone calls, messages are always there online, so particularly helpful words can always be revisited at will from practically anywhere in the world.
The mobile phone has become, for a great majority of people, a constant companion in everyday life. This development is not only an advance in social technology but also has its dark side as well, according to a study performed by Microsoft Australia. Many cell phone owners are already so dependent on their communication device and that is a major reason they are not afraid to use their mobile devices in the most inappropriate and embarrassing moments. It seems that 48 percent of Australian mobile phone users have no problem using their mobile phone on the toilet. Another 36 percent of the total of 2,500 respondents said they spoke on the phone during a wedding. About 11 percent also have no problem making calls from their mobile phones in libraries.
Funeral homes are cutting down on cell phone use. In fact, funeral directors are sometimes calling for people to leave all mobile devices outside the funeral so it does not disturb the service. Mobile phone owners should, in principle, always consider the situation in which they are using their mobile phone. This is especially true for those moments where there are also other people in their immediate environment. In this context, certain sensitivities on the part of users are necessary. Ethical and moral ideals are needed. The only people allowed to have mobile devices should really be the funeral planner and the immediate family according to most funeral directors in Adelaide.
Furthermore, the situations in which the use of mobile phones is rather inappropriate but there are widely differing views. A funeral, according to Microsoft “is a clear example of an inappropriate situation.” There is a difference between someone using their cell phone for personal or professional purposes. In the latter case, it is often necessary, always and everywhere it should be available. However, there is a time and place for it. The person should try to find an appropriate balance of user behavior, which is for themselves and their environment.
For most people, a funeral is not just about saying goodbye. It is about other things. What am I going to do without them? Did they leave enough money to pay for the final expenses? Am I really going to have enough willpower to go through their things?
You live, after all, for each moment and you would prefer to do it for a long time. However, it never seems to work out the way you want it to sometimes. Many people have a certain fear of taking care of the things that will be relevant only after their death. This includes not only the circumstances surrounding the death and the type of funeral you want, but all things like death benefit , wills, donor cards or the memorial service. As unpleasant as it may be, the idea of sitting down with a funeral planner may be exactly what you need.
Funeral directors in Adelaide can help you with all the things stated above and then some but you have to make the first move and contact them. Yes, it is a tough move asking someone to help you plan your death but you dying is inevitable.
You can ask your children if they are already in mourning because of your passing or have any additional worries about money and the answer will be no because no one has thought of it because you haven’t died yet. But what happens if you die and you haven’t settled out the particulars like the funeral service, casket, utilities, transportation and burial? Get the help and the answers you need now.
This is precisely why you need help from people you trust so you don’t burden loved ones financially in the future. You want them to retain fond memories of you and if you save them time and money by getting a lot of this out of the way for them, they will be happier because of it.
“Memento Mori”- Remember that you will die. This remark is one that is well known to the Romans. Even then it was common to be well-prepared for what happens to you when the final curtain falls. Unlike before, the world is not just easier when you die. Many regulations and laws govern every detail of today. We try to bring light into the dark and have a look around us, what types of burial there are and what can be observed. Here are the two most common options you have when doing your funeral planning:
The burial is done in Christianity, the traditional burial. It occurs either in a single grave, a family grave or a tomb or a mausoleum. The burial should take place no earlier than 48 hours and no later than eight days after the death. A burial can be very expensive since it requires a coffin for it. The costs vary between $2,800 and $35,000 however it can be a lot more depending on your tastes.
The cremation was already known in Antiquity and widespread before it hit the edges of Christianity. However, it is only been common for Christians since the end of the 19th Century. The cremation is subject to certain statutory provisions and must be approved separately. There must be no doubt as to the cause of death and the identity of the dead because a subsequent investigation by the combustion is no longer possible. Therefore, prior to cremation, a medical officer or coroner has to examine the deceased. This is usually done within two days. The burning must take place in a crematorium, as it is not permitted in most countries under the open sky. The ash can then either be buried in an urn in a cemetery or spread in nature. Cremations are generally less expensive than burials and they cost approximately between $2,000 and $13,000.
If you are unsure of what options you have, you can contact your local funeral planner and discuss it with them.