All funeral directors are created equal, right?
Well, not exactly.
If you’re facing down the idea of planning for a funeral or even are just considering one that may be coming soon, you need to be sure that you’re taking on the right funeral director for your specific service needs.
The following common myths associated with hiring funeral directors will not only dispel some typical misconceptions, but should help you to find just the right funeral director for a very important event in the lives of those who love you.
Myth 1: Every Director Is the Same
Every single person is not the same, and likewise every funeral is not the same (and every funeral home, for that matter).
Different funeral directors have different specialties, and some may not even offer the specific services that you’re looking for. For instance, some directors may not condone cremation or may try to avoid that option with those who come to them, so if you have a clear idea of the services you or your loved one are looking for, be sure to see what the director seems to think about them—or if he or she offers them.
Myth 2: Funeral Directors Are Morbid
Just because they work with death all day, every day, doesn’t mean that funeral directors are always morbid.
Funeral directors are well aware of their industry, and understand that those who come to them are not as familiar, most likely, with the notions of grieving and departure. It’s part of their job to present the service as something positive and to make you comfortable in a time of grief, so you can be sure that true professionals are as bright and cheery as is necessary.
In fact, if you look hard enough, you might even find a funny one. Funeral directors are people too, and need an outlet for all the bleak aspects of their industry.
Myth 3: Funeral Directors Are Preachers
Religion is inextricably linked with death much of the time, and people can often assume that funeral directors will be employing not only their expertise in death, but a minor in divinity.
Though Christian beliefs and aesthetics are common in funeral homes, many directors will not push this on their clients. If you’re averse to religious slants, then rest assured that most directors will not take a pulpit position when you come to them.
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Call them morticians, undertakers, funerologists or whatever you’re comfortable with, but the general title of this esteemed professional today is funeral director. This will be the person who will guide you along funeral planning and arrangements and who will serve you in whatever needs you end up needing fulfilled, and picking the right one for a territory most of us know very little about is essential.
If you’re looking into funeral planning and just don’t know where to start, these tips and considerations will help you find the best possible funeral planning director for your specific needs.
When searching through your options for the best funeral director, look at his or her business’s reputation online. See if there are any reviews, first, and even ask around to see if anyone knows of a reliable one.
Remember that funerals are vital pieces of the grieving process that will stand out in people’s memories for a long time and may represent the last image people will have of the deceased. This isn’t the type of industry worth taking risks on for lower costs or for lack of knowledge of your options. Go with someone trusted and definite.
That being said, price is also a consideration to make in today’s economy. Funerals can be expensive, so take a look at the business’s offerings to be sure they’re competitive for what you’re looking for, and remember to assess this with their reputation to be sure you’re going to get what you pay for.
If you have a clear idea in mind of what you would like your proposed funeral to be like, you should look around at the areas off specialty of the funeral directors around you.
If religion is a big part of the service you’re looking for, try to find someone who caters to religious services and sensibilities. If you’re vehemently agnostic or atheist, then likewise you may want to avoid any servicers who seem to push the religious aspect of their service, as this may cause some discomfort for both of you. The last thing you want is a poor experience clouding an emotional, grief-riddled time in your life.
Remember that funerals should be times of celebration to some extent, so be sure it’s someone who can help you and those who loved the deceased to have a cathartic, pleasant experience.
Also consider what you want with the remains. If you’re positive about cremation, be sure to find someone who devotes a lot of attention to it as an option. Some directors will try to push their business to one direction or another.
Still, no matter what type of funeral planning you’re looking for, Adelaide funerals are the specialty of Fulham Funerals. They have the local experience and passion to help make any Adelaide funeral experience positive and valuable.
We often keep definite separation between the formal and the informal, the decent and the faux pas, the social and the personal, but sometimes those can be more dotted lines than thick strikes.
In our modern age, there are few things more formal, serious, and even personal than deaths and funerals, and few things less so than social media. But do we really need to keep these things mutually exclusive? Does the constantly burgeoning prevalence of social media really lack a place in the grieving process?
Surely by this point Facebook and Twitter are no longer the tween-centered mediums for adolescent angst, sharing YouTube videos, and updating the world with our insignificant daily minutiae (“this is a pic of me in the morning”; “i had salad for lunch lol”). Grandparents, business professionals, and funeral directors themselves even boast profiles these days, so there’s certainly been a shift in the use and necessity of social media, if not yet the social perception.
So since there’s been a paradigm shift in social medias, there are a few ways that we can take steps to make them a platform for our grieving if we’re willing to step out into the (possibly) vast waters of our friends lists.
Profiles for the Deceased
This one can be quite tricky, as there is some possibility that it could rub people the wrong way or that it could be seen as a product of poor taste. Really this is best done if the deceased already had a profile to begin with and you can somehow manage the profile.
This can be helpful in several ways. First, the person likely had a reach of influence beyond what most of his/her friends knew about, and may have friends from other places that no one else is friends with. This can be a way to reach those people to let them know what happened.
These profiles can also turn into mediums for grief support. Loved ones can post memories and pictures to the profile, allowing all those who appreciated the person to reminisce and get comfort from knowing others felt the same way about him/her.
Sometimes deaths can come with shrouds of uncertainty, and this can be painful to those surviving the person if they aren’t true. By using social media, we now have a podium to announce the truth of ambiguous deaths, such as clearing up that a car accident wasn’t alcohol-induced or that a potentially horrifying incident was really milder than some think. This can be a great comfort to the families left behind, as well as a means of preserving the reputation of the deceased.
Of course the most obvious benefit is the possibility of support. In the past people who couldn’t afford airfare for a service or who maybe didn’t feel they knew the family of the deceased quite well enough to extend a gesture may have sat back, but with social media it’s easy for anyone from anywhere to send over photos or kind words to those who survived the person who died. People can also send out thanks via their profiles so they don’t have to spend tons of time responding individually during the complex times of stress and grief following the death. And unlike phone calls, messages are always there online, so particularly helpful words can always be revisited at will from practically anywhere in the world.